Let’s talk: the lie that’s keeping you exhausted


How was your Mother’s Day?
Did you get even ten minutes of peace? A nap? A decent cup of coffee?

Mine was actually pretty sweet.
My sister and I made a seafood boil for our mom—with her favorite Dungeness crab legs, piled high. We even tried to make our own boil seasoning… emphasis on tried. 😬 It tasted awful, thank goodness we sampled it before pouring it over everything. Crisis averted.

The boil came out perfect in the end.
The vegan carrot cake? Not so much. I mean—it tasted great, but it looked like something out of a baking fail meme. One of those "Nailed It!" moments. 😂

My sister has the pics, if I remember I will share next week! So we can all laugh together!

But honestly, imperfections and all, the day felt full. And that got me thinking…

Why do we still feel so drained, even when things “go well”?
Why do we chase the perfect day, the clean kitchen, the done list—and still end up exhausted?

Here’s the truth I’ve been sitting with:
Doing more isn’t working.
We’ve been sold the lie that if we hustle harder, organize better, and “lean in,” we’ll finally feel on top of things.

But that’s not peace. That’s performance.

What if real productivity wasn’t about doing more—but about doing less, better?
What if it looked like:

  • Leaving space in your day to just be
  • Saying no without explaining
  • Letting go of the to-do list when your body says stop

I know it’s not easy to step off the hamster wheel. But the wheel was never built for us anyway.

So here’s my invitation:
This week, choose one thing to not do.
Seriously. Cross it off the list—without guilt. See what happens when you stop buying the lie that more = better.

You deserve clarity. You deserve ease.
And you’re not alone in wanting both. 💛

With love (and leftover crab legs),

KISm Parenting Solutions

I am a parent coach who supports and guides exhausted and overwhelmed working parents becoming successful in both their careers and parenting, while fostering connection and harmony in their homes. I am dedicated to providing practical solutions and strategies that empower parents to regain control over their time and create a calm and stress free environment, even in the face of challenges. Through personalized time management systems and nurturing support, I help parents achieve a sense of balance, enabling them to arrive at work on time and cultivate a deep sense of inner strength and well-being. Together, we will navigate the journey towards a family that works together, where connection and efficiency coexist, allowing both parents and children to thrive.

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